The Tao of Dating: The Smart Woman’s Guide to Being Absolutely Irresistible
Written By: Nick on December 23, 2011
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The Tao of Dating: The Smart Woman’s Guide to Being Absolutely Irresistible
Quite possibly the best-reviewed women’s dating book on Amazon as of 19 Oct 2011 — 4.9/5.0 stars! I believe that smart, successful women should have it all — both a great career AND a rich, warm, fulfilling love life. Agreed? Then read on. As an advisor at Harvard, I noticed that smart women like yourself were having unfulfilling love lives on an epidemic scale. They either couldn’t find the right guy, were with the wrong guy, had relationships that didn’t last, or had given up on dating enti
List Price: $ 39.95
Price: $ 39.95
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Best dating book ever,
I have read many books about relationships and dating, but the Tao of Dating is one of a kind, so different and mind-blowing in its common sense and simplicity that is impossible to put it down once you start reading. To be honest, I can’t understand why there aren’t 200 reviews instead of the poor thirty something that can be found here.
I am one of those intellectual reserved witty girly women with a very powerful male side. I have always known and explicitly said so to my friends. In fact there are many men, even hot men, who are keen on me, but it takes three seconds for me to destroy their interest. It is very sad and depressing. So I have convinced myself that I am a pain in the ass, and I think I have been sending that vibe out there. However, after reading this book, many things have become crystal clear to me.
I am very rational and very sceptical about everything, but above all love. I few years ago I noticed that my patterns of behaviour were wrong with men, I was being hurt and left alone, despite how worthy I am, so I started to change, and self-help books were very helpful. They are cheaper than a counsellor to start with. However, most of them seem to say the same. I mean, look your best, act girly, don’t hunt men, be mysterious, have a good conversation, be happy with yourself, be yourself. I have been already doing so for ages without result! Being myself has been hurting me emotionally, so how do change, still being myself, to have a fulfilling relationship?
It is by chance that I came through the Tao of Dating and I purchased it. One of those days that you feel like pressing too often the “buy with one-click” button for kindle, or any online shopping button, just because it is, well, one click. I am not a religious person at all or into new age mumbo-jumbo, so this would have never been, in theory, my first option nor the book I was looking for. Moreover, being as rational as I am, I thought, jeez just 35 reviews is not much for a dating book!
But, alas, here I am, so very much impressed and affected by this book. In fact, the book has already produced a mental shift in me, an internal one. This is so because it makes sense, and most importantly, empowers me as a woman.
I love the fact that the book is written by a man who loves and respects women, clever women specially, and understands we are wired differently from other women. Besides, most of the NLP exercises he proposes are excellent, very fulfilling and enjoyable per se, so even if they don’t help us to find a man, they will still be cool to do. The sort of exercise that I/you could do to get rid of stress, for example.
The main difference between this book and most of the dating literature out there is that The Tao of Dating goes inside our head and your heart and helps you to unlock those doors that, without we knowing, we alone have locked. If they were unlocked, more good men would be approaching us and, we would see more of them immediately approaching.
Most clever career/intellectual women, the ones still single, are emotionally autistic. I have always recognised that and asked myself, where are the clues? How do I send clues? How do I read clues from/to men? Why despite my talent, mystique and femininity I am single? Why aren’t a bunch of hot men at my feet? This book helps you to understand yourself/myself better and to change within, to bring the best of us, still being us, Mary, Josephine, Alissa or whomever you are.
This is the book that any good woman, with brains (or without) should read because, no matter what, it will produce a better version of yourself. To me, just that, is priceless.
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|for all women, however smart….,
Dr Ali’s style is no nonsense, but gentle – like a kind brother or friend. The book uses both a scientific and spiritual approach. There are lots of good practical suggestions – for example on where to meet potential dates, and how to spot men who ultimately won’t be able to measure up but also there is the spiritual Tao side which helps one to let go a little and trust in the abundance of the universe.
I thought the book had two main themes – one is to be the best version of yourself you can be for your own sake and working towards that. The other is the insight into the way men think and what is important to them and appreciate it is different from women, but no less valid. Knowing what matters to them helps you interact differently and more successfully – and to be prepared if things don’t go quite as you hoped.
Like one of the other reviewers I don’t fit into the professional, IQ off the chart model – but the advice and ideas put forward by Dr Ali will apply to all sorts of women. The book has helped me to understand how important it is to be myself and that being authentic is so much more attractive.
There’s lots of great information in the book, and I have read it through more than once – in fact writing this has reminded me of so many good bits that I’m going to read it all again.
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|From empty dating life to overflowing with dates!,
Thanks to this specific book, I went from having a nonexistent dating life, with empty weeks stretching ahead to being booked every night of the week– and in some cases, having two or three dates per evening. Best of all, I actually enjoy the process of dating now– I have so much fun on dates.
First, Dr. Ali’s straightforward talk and revelations lead you through a series of epiphanies and complete mindset-shift. You will think differently and feel differently.
Second, his pragmatic and immediately applicable tools help you behave differently.
Put this all together and the results, for me, were dramatic: I now feel like I have my pick of the litter– a slew of fabulous guys who all clamor for my attention. If someone had told me weeks ago that this is what my dating life would be like now, I would not have believed them. And yet– it has happened. It’s not magic– it’s sound science; and we’re just lucky that Dr. Ali has packaged it all together in a fun, easy-to-use guide.
His guide is so valuable that I re-read it periodically, because it’s so easy to go back to old habits of mind. And each time, I feel like I’ve gone through a refresher. I feel old, limiting thought-patterns falling away and a new dose of enlightenment settling in.
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